A year ago today I came out as non binary.
I purposefully timed the post so I’d be on a 12 hour international flight, but then didn’t have time to do it in the Helsinki airport, so I paid for an hour of in flight WiFi. 😂 When I landed, I was overwhelmed with support, which I am eternally grateful for.
While this past year has been... turbulent, my own self confidence, body acceptance, and general well being has skyrocketed. I feel at home in my body, at home in my identity, and more secure than I ever have. Gender euphoria is wearing swim trunks at the beach, getting called sir by strangers, and wearing my binder under button ups. 🤵🏻
I want to acknowledge that my coming out journey was incredibly privileged. I am white, able bodied, thin, and live in Los Angeles. I am not dependent on my family and don’t have to worry about losing my job or housing for being trans. My struggle is nowhere near that of a Black trans woman or a disabled trans person or a trans person living in a deep red state. In honor of my own coming out, I’m donating to funds for my fellow trans BIPOC. I have a couple on my list already, but if you know of anybody who’s particularly in need, DM me!
My transness has grown and evolved over the past year, from my pronouns to presentation to my sense of belonging in the community. Which brings me to the change you may have already noticed, my handle is officially @zooholmstrom ! Zoo is a name I came up with while on a bus in Scotland last year, when I was first accepting that I might be non binary. For now, Susan is still my legal name, and what I go by at work and with family, and as of right now, I’m not going to file for a name change. But from here on out, Zoo is my “real” name, the name I have chosen and gifted to myself.
I would like to introduce you all to Zoo, the person I’ve grown into over the past year. I can’t wait for you to get to know them even more.
(Also friendly reminder my pronouns are they/them!) (Or also they/he if you’re cool)